Being successful can ruin your relationship
By: serenebeauty (20 March 2010)
I ask this question because I have become aware of the apparent "Oscar Curse" that has seemingly befallen many actresses who have won the Best Actress category. It's like they are able to turn heads and minds and are followed by legal stalkers (the paparazzi, designers and journalists), cry (me) a river (Cameron Diaz & Justin Timberlake) as they give their acceptance speech (which I am now led to believe is where and when they sign the contract) and accept the "little" but heavy, gold (more lucrative deals and more time for stalkers to follow) object, sorry man called Oscar.
If you observe closely, you will note that once they have "Oscar" their relationships (often long-term or marriage) disintegrates all because of a little man (pure gold). No doubt you have all heard about Sandra Bullock and Kate Winslet- they have split from their husbands. I could name a few others including Halle Berry (Monster's Ball), Reese Witherspoon (Legally Blonde), but I leave it there.
Looking critically, don't you think that it is actually their legal stalkers who destroy the relationships indirectly because they just don't believe that successful women can have fulfilling relationships? Alternatively could the reason for the "curse" be due to the periods of absences spent filming and promoting the film or careers? I'm sure that a divorce lawyer would, probably, choose the latter explanation.
But successful career women do suffer in relationships!! If you are female & successful you are often called a "man-hater" or "lesbian" but does this differ from situations of high income families where one partner is away raising funds or children? No, it does not but there is little doubt that Hollywood (Cursedwood) brings its lures (money, intimacy from co-stars/business partners arising from spending time with each other).
Not that I am completely anti-marriage, but a large proportion of celebrity relationships/ marriages fail because the stars have a harder (I don't agree with this excuse, relationships are hard work) making it work. Personally I think that it takes a wise man to appreciate a strong, beautiful and successful woman but then wise men (they were only 3) are few to find! Okay, that might not be accurate or factual but take Prince Albert, Denis Thatcher, Prince Philip, they are content with playing second best to their wives (Queens and Prime Minister).
On a happier note, being a successful woman/man, can ruin relationships but only if both partners let it happen. I know that being an independent woman with a strength and determination has at times aided but more often, hindered my relationships, However, I cannot pretend to be something that I am not nor wish to aspire to.
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"Well said you."
tmhogirl (21 March 2010)
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